This is the first of 10 Ways to Make a Positive Impact in Your Child’s Life, a FREE eBook to help you improve your relationship with your children.
If you want to improve your child’s behavior, it is important to remember first and foremost that you must lead by example and the best way to do that is to improve your parenting skills. Remember, you are your child’s first and most influential teacher!
Your child is ALWAYS watching and listening. They are learning all of the good, but unfortunately, they are also taking in all of the bad and the ugly.
Whenever your child is in your presence, it is important to keep this in mind. Ask yourself, “Are my words and actions something that I would want my child to imitate?”
Think before you speak
Remember to be conscientious of how you are speaking to your child, both when they are behaving nicely as well as the challenging times. Be aware that thoughtless words said in anger and frustration can leave long-lasting emotional scars.
Also, remind yourself that your child will likely imitate the way that you handle a stressful situation. If you lose your temper, they will be likely to mimic that behavior.
In my opinion, one of the best ways to improve your parenting skills is to be:
- Slow to speak
- Quick to listen
- Slow to get angry
Take a breather
Sometimes emotions can escalate to a point that clouds our logical judgement. If your child is at the height of a tantrum, or if you are feeling at your wit’s end, you may need to take a little “breather”.
Just finding something to provide a quick distraction for your mind can do wonders. For example, you could put on tranquil music, walk into another room for a minute, or simply close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. Practice “diaphragm breathing” to get the most out of these deep breaths.